When you know prior to meeting someone that the net sum of the effort is not gonna be good, taking a pass is the smart thing to do.
The kid challenged me to a 28k game of hoops that would take me 38 seconds to win. I got 8 inches height advantage, 20 years more on the courts vs far better than he has seen, probably 4 times stronger, in as good condition or better.......
And I would be out 150k in bail money, looking at another 3 year stint when the kid started calling bullshit fouls, whining, running his cokksukker or didn't show with the dough.
Almost wanted to but my lovely wife reminded me of my shortcomings.
Now a guy like Heisy, would meet anytime anywhere. No bullshit, no littleman's and no trouble. Would have a great time.