After a few seconds spent considering whether I should feel upset and dismayed, disrespected and indignant, I had to admit to myself that I liked it, a lot. It felt dirty, weird, wrong, but also thrilling that he'd decided to try something that unexpected, that out there, during the exhilarating trust fall that is sex. We'd been together just a few weeks and had sex only a handful of times. In many ways, we barely knew each other. I could have spit right back at him, enraged. I could have climbed off and run to hide in my bathroom, leaving him there, naked, embarrassed. But I didn't. I reached up, wiped the saliva from my eyes, and kept going.